How to overcome fear
It is not an exaggeration to say that fear is one of the most dangerous enemies of man, and the question of how to overcome fear is one of the oldest questions. It would seem nonsense. After all, a sense of fear, on the contrary, is designed to protect a person from falling into dangerous situations. And when it comes to primitive existence, it worked. Therefore, fear arose in the process of evolution.
But the further a person moved away from the primitive society according to the time line, the less fear performed its protective functions. Indeed, real dangers became less and less, and fears were, and remained, becoming more and more common phobias.
Moreover, fear, which no longer had a real protective foundation, began to slow down human activity. For example, for some time it was believed that it was impossible to overcome a speed of 60 km / h because a person could not breathe at that speed. And this opinion was shared even by scientists! And only daredevils, able to overcome fear, got into the first horseless carriages, first overtook a pedestrian, then a horse, then a steam locomotive, and then the sound itself. Thus, the ability to overcome fear has become a factor in the development of many areas of technology.
The problem is that at the instinct level we, as creatures born of nature, do not trust technology. It seems to us that the plane may fall, and we are afraid to fly, it seems to us that the parachute may not open, and we are afraid to jump, it seems to us that we can get caught by the boat’s propeller, and therefore we are afraid to learn wakeboarding. We are not in a hurry to start doing stunts on skateboards or rollers, because we are afraid of pain when falling. We are afraid of skiing, because in our veins the blood freezes from just looking at the steepness of the slope.
All these fears keep us from developing, from moving forward, from satisfying a passion for travel, to achieving sports results, or even just from outdoor activities.
Moreover, fears, it seems to us, are far from groundless, because we see on television how planes fall, how people fall, how cars crash. And our fears from this only grow, gaining support in reality.
So how do you overcome fear, and is it possible?
A definite answer to this question does not exist, since it is individual in each particular case. However, it is possible to give a number of general recommendations relating specifically to outdoor activities and extreme sports.
The fact is that all fears arise mainly from the fact that we do not yet know from our own experience what to expect from this or that object or phenomenon. And other people’s stories about this have almost no effect on reducing fear. No matter how much you tell us that skiing down the slope is not scary, we are still afraid, standing for the first time at the beginning of the slope.
This is the “first time” and is a key point. The more experience we gain, the less we are afraid. Going down once, and realizing that nothing bad happened to us, we will go down a second time, and a third, and we will gradually build up our skills.
That is, the key to overcoming fear is the accumulation of personal experience in one or another skill. It is important here to build up experience gradually, because, speaking in a common language, a jump to a great depth from the pier will not relieve the fear of not knowing how to swim.
To overcome fear, it is just the gradual accumulation of experience that is important, the gradual increase in the severity of sensations. It is important to put yourself in such conditions when the load, height, depth, steepness of the slope or the height of the obstacle increases gradually. Starting from such quantities that do not cause panic horror.
Are you afraid of the slope? Try skiing on a flat surface. This will give an idea of the possibility of steel edgings. Then try to go down from the smallest slope and use the so-called “plow” to stop at the smallest speed. And when you are convinced of the effectiveness of this technique that it can keep you at any speed and any steepness, gradually increase the steepness and length of the slope.
You should do the same with depth, height and other values that scare you.
A special place in overcoming fear is the fight against it in such an extreme discipline as wake. The problem is that the power of the boat to exit the water on the board cannot be gradually increased, and many, especially girls, are afraid of the initial thrust. It seems to some that they can tear off their hands. But no one had ever been torn off. And this fact is the first step towards overcoming fear.
In fact, the easiest way to overcome fear on a wakeboard is to start not with a boat, but with a winch or, as they say in the west, with a cable wake. There thrust is very small, and the exit from the water is not due to power, but due to the vector.
Having mastered the way out of the water on a winch, and having the experience of sliding, you will get rid of fear. In any case, this will not be scary to the same extent. And after the first exit from the water behind the boat, you completely forget about fear.